Today, one of my dear childhood friends was laid to rest. She leaves behind many heartbroken people, warm memories, and a 2 year old son. Laurie's sudden passing at 29, made me realize how precious our time with our children is AND how we need to protect their time should anything happen to us.
Geoff and I have discussed our "wills" many times over. And I have made my wishes known to my father and close friends, but nothing has been legally drafted. I think this is because we don't necessarily agree on what we want for Maia. This is not fair to Maia or our families.
Geoff's stance is a sensible one. Should we meet our demise, Maia will be raised by family; either his parents or brother. Simple. Understandable.
I, on the other hand, want her to be raised by friends. I fear age, infirmity, I don't want Maia to have to go through the ordeal of death multiple times. And let's face it, there is a great divide between the generations. And although, I believe that Geoff's family would do what was best for Maia. I want her to be understood also(admittedly, I don't understand her at all).
So, for now, my Quicken Will Maker software sits unused. But not for long....
We did our wills in May. It was hard to do, but very necessary. The kids go to my cousin (4 years my senior). Everything else gets sold. End of story. And I'm glad we have it done (along with medical power of attorney and regular power of attorney).
ReplyDeleteWe're about to take our first trip as a couple without kids next year and I told Mike it is time to put it in writing. I was on the fence because I worried the people who would be best for one kiddo wouldn't be best for the other and I wouldn't want to separate them...
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